STEP TWO : DEFINITION & STRATEGY
You have made the decision and are committed to creating your Ultimate Lifestyle and living your best life, which is beyond fantastic! The next step now is to define your Ultimate Lifestyle and then develop the strategy to make your best life ideals a reality and start to live your dream.
Grab a pen and paper so you can make notes and begin by asking yourself :
What is my concept of the Ultimate Lifestyle?
Dream big so you can grow into it! Want to be a rock star with seven girlfriends, a million fans and a personal assistant? Want to own several businesses and travel the world continuously with your best friends while other people manage your enterprises? Does your heart crave to follow the summer seasons? or maybe your the next pro snowboarder living winter to winter? Want to start your own fashion label? Oh, the potential dreams are as diverse and unique as each of us.
If, at this stage you are a little concerned that you have absolutely no idea what you want to do with your life, relax. If you have lived the standard ho-hum existence up till now then it is no surprise that your creativity and imagination are suffering from stagnation. What you need to do is, instead of thinking long term and big, just follow your heart…think; what do I really want to do RIGHT NOW? Is it to travel and explore new cultures? Quitting your j.o.b. and taking that course that you have been daydreaming about? Whatever short term goals you realize, keep in mind the Ultimate Lifestyle and ask yourself “is this going to make my life more exciting and interesting”? Then take these short term, immediate goals and continue with the next step.
No matter how wild and crazy your dreams are, know that as long as you can dream it, then it is possible. True happiness really is possible and you deserve to experience the very best of life and be happy.
Now, working backwards from your big goal, break it down into smaller milestones, and then break those milestones down into every day actionable tasks that you can accomplish one at a time. What you have now is your TO DO list.
For example; Let us take the Rock star with seven girlfriends, a million fans and a personal assistant as a crude example…
You know what your ideal Ultimate Lifestyle is : You want to be a Rock star with 7 girlfriends a 1,000,000 fans and a personal assistant…. but how are you going to make this a reality?
Break it down :
Firstly, to be a Rock Star you are going to need to be a musician. If you are not already, you are going to have to learn. Choose an instrument (or several), and start taking lessons, a lot of them. Be ruthlessly dedicated to your Ultimate Lifestyle goal. Squeeze as many lessons as you can into a month, practice in your spare time. This is your first milestone – to gain the skills and knowledge necessary to become a Rock Star. You will need to become a virtuoso on your instrument (unless you have another idea in mind to become a Rock Star?). Whatever obstacles you encounter, come up with an action plan to overcome them. In this example, if you are lacking the funds to pay for the music lessons you will also need to focus on creating revenue streams; is there something you can sell? Maybe you can trade services with the music instructor i.e. music lessons for house painting etc, are there free lessons provided by the local council? or maybe there is a local musician who will be happy to take you under his wing…
Now your very awesome To Do list looks like this :
- Rock star
- Become a virtuoso musician
- Choose instrument
- Take lessons
- Find the money to pay for music lessons…
- Trade services?
- Find a local mentor happy to teach me for free?
- What can I sell?
- Meet other musicians
- Start a band once I’m playing well enough
In the meantime while your music skills are progressing you will want to take a look at your Ultimate Lifestyle goals : You have the Rock Star part under control (taking lessons, learning, networking), now you want to focus on the 7 girlfriends :
If this was a real example, one would question your sanity for wanting 7 girlfriends! If you REALLY, really want it, then you are going to have to become the type of man worthy of seven girlfriends. No, I’m not talking about sexual stamina (though that will be important), I mean you need to develop the rock star AURA that tells the world without the utterance of a single word that polyamorous relationships are just the way you roll. You need the attitude which speaks to people that you have nothing to hide or anything to be ashamed about, this is your life, this is the way you choose to live. If inheriting the spirit of the Greek God Zeus is not possible, you will need to develop the characteristics which will support this noble accomplishment – think Hugh Hefner. You are going to have to learn how to be a true gentleman, know how to treat each of your girlfriends like your Queen and intuitively know how to create and maintain this very dynamic love life. But how?! As part of this goal, you may want to actively seek out like minded friends and start socializing with open minded ladies. Is there someone who can mentor you? Read Hugh Hefner’s biography so you really get a better understanding about what is involved. Knowledge is power! Investigate what your city has on offer. There may be clubs and or social gatherings dedicated to this theme. And if not in your city, try the next city or country over! Start putting everything into practice TODAY so when your band hits the big time your romantic life will be in perfect form.
- Rock star
- 7 girlfriends
- Develop “rock star” aura and become a man capable of having such a gift
- Read books on self esteem and confidence
- Research what women really want
- Dress up in ladies clothes for a day to increase my appreciation and understanding of them
- Learn how to be a gentleman and treat women like a Queen – find a mentor!
- Read Hugh Hefner’s biography – learn from the master
- Find swinger clubs in the city
- Yellow pages?
- Who do I know in this scene?
- Consider moving to San Francisco?
- Find open minded fun lady friends
The million fans? Once your music ambitions progress you and your band will naturally start to develop a fan base. You may want to speed the process up (average human life expectancy is 67 after all – time is ticking!) and proactively seek methods to increase your fan base faster. Can you pull a publicity stunt to garner attention in the tabloids? Hire a marketing specialist to get your name out there? Think!
- Rock star
- 7 girlfriends
- 1,000,000 fans
- Publicity stunt? Research and brainstorm
- What have other bands done?
- Marketing specialist?
- How much will he charge?
- What guarantees will he / she give us?
- Facebook? Charity events? Twitter?
- Think!
+ 1 personal assistant? This will be a natural byproduct of your success. Once you are selling many records to your 1,000,000 fans you will easily be able to afford a personal assistant, hell even two! But just for the fun of it, put it on the To Do list :
- Rock star
- 7 girlfriends
- 1,000,000 fans
- Personal Assistant
- Contact recruitment agency
- Requirements :
- Proactive
- Intelligent
- Able to travel with the band
- Has a sense of humor
- etc etc – whatever you want him / her to be!
So, welcome to your AWESOME To Do List. Let this be your bible, refer to it every single day, work your To Do list with passion and excitement because every “tick” is a step closer to making your dreams a reality. Your To Do list is responsible for helping you organize and focus your precious time and energy on only tasks which benefit your Ultimate Lifestyle endeavors.
This was just an example to how to define and strategize your Ultimate Lifestyle goals and put in place realistic action steps which can be worked on and thought about every day. Personalize it to your own goals and be realistic about time frames as well. Know that this is a long, transformational process that does not happen over night. Be prepared to spend the next few years relentlessly pursuing your dreams.
And please remember – this is the Quest for the Ultimate Lifestyle, like mentioned on the Welcome page : the genius behind creating the Ultimate Lifestyle is that as long as you never give up and are always in pursuit of your Ultimate Lifestyle, then there is no possibility of failure, because at the end of the day, we all die and you would have had a ridiculous amount of fun getting there.
And a final note, stay flexible with your goals. As time passes you may find that 7 girlfriends isn’t really what you want, or even being a rock star is not your true calling. There is a difference between giving up vs changing paths. It is perfectly okay and encouraged to change paths. When changing paths there is no shame or failure for not having achieved your goals because your true goal is the Ultimate Lifestyle and being a rock star was just a tool to create it. (Unless of course there were self limitating beliefs present which stopped you from accomplishing your goal, but that is an entire different topic).
Once you are in the habit of following your heart and proactively creating the life of your dreams, you will discover what your true dreams and wishes are and only then will you have the opportunity to live them.
Keep going, keep having fun, keep following your heart, keep developing a peaceful and loving mind and the world is at your mercy.
Good luck!
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